6 tips on how to be a classy lady
We’ve all been there, in the middle of a social setting when we come across a one of a kind woman. We admire her, steal secret glances at her and silently wish to be more like her. She is a head turner the moment she enters the room, extremely poised and classy. People are respectful towards her and she walks with a sense of grace. She is a lady in every sense. What really sets her apart isn’t something she is born with but rather just some simple and mindful manners that she has chosen to inculcate and pay heed to. You see, all females are women, but it takes something extra to be a lady. There really is no age when it comes to learning how to be more ladylike and graceful and there really is nothing wrong in trying. It speaks for you and your upbringing, how respectful you are towards others and yourself. Think Kate Middleton or perhaps Audrey Hepburn. These classic women are the epitome of grace and elegance. Whatever they do (or did) the world always had its eye on them. Girls and women everywhere alike wished they could be more like them. So what really set them apart? Believe it or not, it’s not the ‘celebrity status’ or the money, but rather how they carry themselves in the public eye. And you too can achieve that kind of silent confidence and class by being mindful and paying attention to some of the following tips: 1. Posture: I know you here it time and again but posture really is a very crucial part of your body language. If you are slouching, with your arms crossed in front of you, people will automatically assume you are uninterested in striking a conversation and just want to leave the situation the moment you get the chance. And no one likes these kinds of bored/annoyed looking individuals in a group setting. Instead, stand/ sit up straight, be open and smile politely at people, nod your head when in conversation to indicate you are listening to other people’s opinions and chime in where ever necessary. Never cross your arms or put them in your pockets, its considered extremely rude and impolite. 2. Dress for success: This does not mean you have to always be dressed in opulent gowns and jewels. If it’s a pair of jeans and a simple t-shirt that’s more apt for the occasion then by all means go ahead and wear it. Always keep in mind where you are going and dress accordingly. It’s not a good idea to wear a really short dress to a job interview or wear sneakers to a sit down fancy dinner. Take out some time and research the dress code for a particular event if it’s something you’re not quite sure of. It will always pay off in the end. 3. Be on time, always: There’s nothing worse than RSVP-ing for an event and then showing up an hour late. It’s considered incredibly rude towards the host/hostess. If you’ve given your word to someone that you will show up, than you should and on time. While you’re at it, it’s also a good idea to take a small token of thanks for the hosts, be a bottle of wine, some fresh flowers or maybe even a small appetizer dish. It just shows that you are gracious and extremely thoughtful and such small gestures will always be appreciated. 4. Table manners: This in itself deserves a whole another blog post, but is a very important etiquette that not only women, but rather everyone should know how to follow in order to be polite. A few key pointers to keep in mind include not using the phone whilst sitting, using the appropriate cutlery, keeping good posture, chewing with your mouth closed, not reaching across another diner in order to grab something off the table, not speaking too loudly etc. 5. Good hygiene: Hygiene is a big give away on how well someone looks after themselves. Having clean, nice smelling hair, clipped nails and good breath are some of the basic things that everyone ought to follow. Along similar lines, paying attention to little details can also pay you well in the long run. Find yourself a signature scent/ perfume and wear that on a regular basis. It’s a tip practiced by most of the powerful and successful independent women in the world. Keep your nails well-manicured and try to stay away from bright in-your-face- nail paints or nail arts. Instead stick to something more subtle and classy like nude tones or a French manicure. Do your hair in a way that will be best suited for the occasion. If it’s something along the more formal line, opt for an up-do or a low bun. 6. Be confident and make others feel good about themselves: If you are confident in your skin then you’ve already won half the battle. Being classy and ladylike is not about trying to be something you are not but instead brushing up your good features and qualities that will make you stand out in the crowd. A true lady always stands tall, takes every twist and turn in life with utmost grace and never loses her charm with age. Refrain from indulging in gossip even if other people are doing it. If you find yourself stuck in such a situation just lightly nod your head to show that you are listening to other people’s opinions but you don’t necessarily have to encourage them. Always remember, small minds discuss other people, average minds discuss things and great minds discuss events. So don’t be that person who adds fuel to fire. Instead try and add value to the conversation. If you leave people and things better than you found them then no matter what, you will always seem like a winner.