Defeating depression isn’t easy. So mingled this mental state gets with our daily lifestyle, curing it feels like filtering life from life. Impossible. No wonder millions of people around the world undecidedly decide to live with this illness, silently, for the rest of their lives. Many of them, of course, decide to end their journey mid-way.
But then again, like the clichéd saying goes – ‘even impossible says I’m possible’.
Are you depressed? Do you think there’s nothing left to your life? Are you too comfortable in your depressive state now that feeling happy sounds like a bad idea?
We understand. I understand. The darkness you’re trapped in, the hardship you go through every day, the loneliness you experience all the time, and the misery you feel every single day of your life—we understand.
Here’s a thing you need to understand: you can’t change your current mental state unless you try and persist to climb out of the labyrinth. At such times, you’re your best help. It is you who needs to take that very first step towards the sunshine. Do it and you will see hundreds of people stretching their arms to pull you out of the darkness?
Yes, it’s going to be tough. Extremely tough. Impossible for many people. But trust yourself to be your own hero. You can do it. Start this curing journey by following these 5 non-regular tips that will help you fight back depression without actually fighting it:
1. Accept You Need Help
One of the biggest problems of our time is that many people don’t even know they are in depression. Others, who do suspect it, they don’t want to admit or accept it as a fact. And then there are many who try to hide their illness. All these are stemmed out of societal values that fail to recognize depression as a serious illness.
To cure your depressive mind, you must first need to accept that something is not right and needs curing. Don’t try to fight back your persisting mental state by being busy, obsessing happy-movies and songs, and working out too much. The first step is to accept you’re in serious problem and requires help as soon as possible.
Remember, you cannot find peace by avoiding life.
2. Avoid People Who Don’t Understand
You’ve been told to talk to people, tell them about your problem, communicate with them, and open yourself up. While as noble the advice is, it’s also incredibly poor or incomplete. Understand, when depressed, talking to people doesn’t help. Talking to RIGHT PEOPLE is what you should look for. If you end up communicating with someone who doesn’t understand your problem or mock your state, these things will only make the situation worse for you.
So instead of talking to everyone or anyone, find someone who’s right for such conversations. A right person is someone who understands depression is a big illness that doesn’t have cure in “you’ll be fine”. The right person is someone who will listen to you without trying to offer you any solution—someone who will lend you their hand to hold for as long as you want.
If you don’t find someone “right”, talk to a therapist then. Or even if you find some good to talk to, talking to a counselor can be much more rewarding.
3. Find One Reason To Live
Indeed, not every depression case has a dead-end to suicidal thoughts. Many people just accept their current state as their fate and they decide to live with all the grief and woes for as long as possible. In any case, regardless the exact stage you’re on, find one reason to laugh, live and be happy. Maybe it’s your parents, spouse, dreams and goals or anything else—all you need is one small simple reason to slay all the other reasons that push you to give up.
4. Breathe The Fresh Air and Hug Nature
When your mind is trapped and the four walls seem to be further entrapping and crushing you, make nature your friend. The bliss that lies in breathing fresh air, bathing in sunlight, letting the wind float your hair, and birds hymn to you is unlike anything else. It’s one of the best medicines ever that can cure the sickest of person.
So embrace the beauty of nature. Hit your local park or forest pathway, go to a beach, or mount the hills. Go anyplace possible that’s not crowded and where you can just relax and let the nature give you a serene therapy. Sit there in the midst, let loose your mind and breathe deeply. All your inner pain will explode into self-reflection. You will cry, you will laugh, and you will act cold. But no more will you feel hopeless.
Make this natural therapy session happen at least twice every week. The result will be evident in no time.
5. Try To Live One More Day (Please)
“Live one more day” put this phrase up where it stays in front of your eyes all the time. Because that’s what you need to do every day. When things are not good, when the situation is becoming even worse, when all the paths are taking wrong turn and when you have lost all the meaning in life, just remember this simple goal you’re tasked for today—live one more day.
These are 5 simple tips (yes, they are simple) that would help you fight depression with open arms. Maybe they won’t show you instant results, maybe you won’t even feel like doing them regularly. But trust me, trust yourself, these bad days will pass. And you will be happy, if not tomorrow or next week then next month or year. Just survive. If it gets tough, have someone by your side. But survive.