Should your mom be your maid of honor?

If you are lucky, you are blessed with an army of friends by your side; some of them are childhood friends, while others you might have acquired during your college years or maybe even at work. So as your wedding day inches closer, you might feel the pressure of picking one of them as your maid of honor. The tradition says that your maid of honor is your closest friend, and here is where things get complicated as you don’t want to pick only one, and the others will feel like they’re less important to you. 

 

But what if you don’t have to pick? What if instead of naming one of your friends as your maid of honor, you ask your mom to stand by your side on your special day? Suppose you have a close relationship with her, there is no other better choice than asking your mom. Without a single shadow of a doubt, you should ask your mom to be by your side because there’s no one else to have the same amount of boundless love for you as she does. 

 

 

Here are some extra reasons to pick your mom as your maid of honor

Everyone knows the relationship between the mother and her daughter is special because they share timeless love. The meaningful connection between both is based on lifelong and unconditional love and is the only reason that you’ll ever need for your choice. However, you will also have countless other benefits if you name your mother your as the maid of honor.

 

No one knows you better than your mother

 

The maid of honor has the role of providing you with the necessary emotional support during the period where you prepare for the wedding, but most importantly, on your wedding day. Some of the most stressful months of your life lay ahead of you, and you need to know that you can count on the maid of honor to assist you during these challenging times. Your mother was a constant in your life, and she supported you throughout the milestones you encountered so far, so it’s only natural for her to also do it now. She has years of experience, so she knows how to handle you in different situations and how to bring you comfort. She can also serve as the voice of reason because there are great chances for you to let your emotions control you. She knows you the best, so she is able to reach you in a way that your friends cannot. 

 

Your mother will help you deal with family drama

 

Weddings are about bringing your family and friends together, and while bringing your friends together might not be that challenging, navigating your family dynamics might give you a headache. Most families have their own family drama, and trying to figure out how to manage it alone can be stressful. But with your mother’s help, you can deal with this process a lot easier because she will act as the ringleader since she knows the family dynamics better than anyone else and she will ward you off of the situations that could overwhelm you. She will most likely deal with most issues before they make it to your ears so you can focus on the things important to you. She will make sure you have the best experience on your special day because her mother's instincts will always be to keep you safe. 

Your relationship with your mother goes beyond friendship because she is the one who raised you and took care of you for so many years, so she will make sure that your wedding goes smoothly. She will be there to help you when you are worried and anxious because she has the innate mother instincts to help you. 

 

She can help you get rid of stress

 

We mentioned it before, but it’s essential to highlight it because it’s one of the most significant benefits of having your mom as your maid of honor. She will ward you off of the most stressful situations you’ll meet when planning the wedding, but also on the day. You can trust her with everything because she won’t let you down. And it’s a beautiful thing to have peace of mind when planning a wedding. 

 

You don’t have to pick between friends

 

If you don’t want to make your friends feel bad because you choose one of them as your maid of honor. Your mom will fill that role while they can all be your bridesmaids. You can choose to coordinate their looks and your mom and bridesmaids to wear similar dresses, or she can wear a special outfit like a mother of the bride dress. This way, your friends won’t get upset because one of them looks different. No one can get upset that your mother wears something special. 

You might not have an easy way to distinguish between your friends, and in this case they can all have the same role, while your mother is the maid of honor.  

 

She doesn’t have to handle the bachelorette party 

 

Traditionally, the maid of honor plans the bachelorette party, but in this situation, your group of friends can step up and do this together. Why should a single person handle this event when more people could do it? It would also be easier for them because they can split the tasks, and make sure no one gets overwhelmed. You can ask your mother to join if the celebration includes activities like going to the spa. She will probably want to skip the party that usually takes place at night. Before inviting your mother to the bachelorette party, remember to ask your wedding party if they feel comfortable with her being around. 

 

Final words

 

This article shows that there are many reasons to have your mother as the maid of honor. However, at the end of the day, you should decide if this option works best for you. Once you make up your mind, have a candid conversation with your friends and tell them what you prefer.