If you think you've found your soulmate, brace yourself for some bad news...
There are no soulmates.
That's right; it's not the amazing love story with the happily ever after that Hollywood might lead you to believe. And while some couples might seem like they're on their way to that end-goal, all relationships experience conflicts, and most don't work out in the end. The unfortunate truth is that more often than not, our true match is somebody we pass by every day on the street who doesn't know we exist. You're more likely to find true love with someone you choose over just about anyone else.
But while we can't claim to know who we'll fall in love with, we do know where we'll meet them: at work. Our jobs offer us opportunities for networking and socialization that can help us get to know new people and give us confidence in our personal worth—essential ingredients of successful relationships. But while this might seem like a no-brainer, it's surprising how many of us choose jobs that don't provide these things.
If your job doesn't offer opportunities for connection, don't rely on a soulmate to come along at the right time and somehow change that. Instead, look for other ways to get the support you need to build a strong relationship.
Numerous studies have found that people are more likely to find true love in their 30s than in their 20s, so it's best not to put all your eggs in one basket. There are plenty of ways to crack the whip on your career during this stage of life—and one of them might just be at your workplace.
Consider these benefits:
1. You have something in common with the boss, the co-workers and clients you work with every day. You can turn these commonalities into networking opportunities.
2. You're already familiar with the daily routine at your job, so it's easy for you to imagine yourself there.
3. There are no surprises—you already know what to expect at work, which gives you a head start on avoiding problems that can seriously damage relationships.
4. You can create opportunities to meet other people, either through group activities within the company or by networking outside the office with colleagues and clients.