How to deal with a difficult husband?

Now, let’s identify a difficult husband, which is as common as anything in a patriarchal society. And these husbands become the reason for the marriage problems that women face.

So a difficult husband can be the one who is abusive, the one who wants your full attention every time, the one who wants you to be always submissive being a woman, the one who wants his demands to be handled like the demands of a kid, and so on. Difficult husbands come in all shapes and sizes.

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Now coming to your question, we need to figure out a solution for this age-old problem. How to deal with a difficult husband who mistreats you, physically and emotionally, and takes you for granted.

Because Indian societal set up just doesn’t allow women to seek help or divorce in such so-called “personal problems” between husband and wife.

So first of all, you need to be aware enough of the kinds of help you can take if your husband is getting hard to deal with. For example, if he is abusive you can call on women helpline number, or your neighbors or family to intervene. Do anything but don’t stay mum. If you tolerate such behavior of your husband once, he will be encouraged to do the same again. He should be afraid to commit the same mistake again, knowing that there’s his loss as well in such a situation.

Another thing that you should try doing is to stop following his orders blindly and let him do his stuff by himself. You need to tell him that you are his wife, his partner in marriage and not his mother who will fulfill all his whims and demands. Make it clear to him that you are not his servant either, and want your own freedom.

Talking of freedom, from here should also come to the concept of independence. Every wife should not be entirely dependent on his husband emotionally and financially. She should be the owner of her own world, where she is able to exist even without her husband. Only then the wife would be able to break through the shackles and stop taking the bad behavior of her husband.

The independence should also be that from the attention. Don’t think that you need your husband’s validation for anything. You should not crave for his attention and start taking your decisions independently.

When your husband will realize that you have a personality and an existence of your own, out of his shadow, he will stop being that difficult to you.